I want to encourage those adoptive mothers who have struggled with infertility and have not experienced giving birth to a child. There is a temptation to feel like a “second class” mother. This can be communicated in the most subtle of ways, like not receiving a baby shower or experiencing the kind of excitement and celebration from church friends and family that your friends who have had biological children received. It can be communicated through the way people talk and celebrate their children looking like their parents. It can be more overt in people asking about your child’s “real mom.” These are all very real and painful experiences that adoptive moms have faced.
I want to remind you that you are not “second class”. You are as much of a real mother as any other mother who has given birth to a child or adopted a child. Though birth is an amazing and beautiful thing, it is not what primarily makes a family a family. Husband and wife become a family through marriage. Children become family either through birth or through adoption. God Himself models this for us in that we become a part of His family through adoption and new birth (Gal 4:1-7). In fact, Jesus Himself was both a biological and an adopted child!
As an adoptive mother, you model the Gospel and the glory of God in a way only adoptive mothers can! And that brings God great pleasure!