Is it Ethical to Pay $40,000 for An Adoption: Answering Objections – Part 1

After sharing the testimony of the Neill family the other day, one commenter responded with some objections that I have briefly responded to below:

Objection: Paying these large fees encourage corruption in adoption.
Corruption unfortunately does exist and we should do everything we can to see that those responsible for trafficking and extortion in the name of adoption are brought to justice. God is a God of mercy but also a God of justice and as His followers, made in His image, we should do all we can to love boldly enough to do what is necessary to stop these things from happening.

That said, the existence of corruption should not stop us from adopting altogether. In fact, while one can argue that large fees are the cause of corruption, it can also be argued that corruption has led to the increase in costs. That is why it is important for adoptive parents to be educated and to enter into the process asking the right questions. Ethica, a non-profit organization dedicated to the promotion of ethical adoption, encourages adoptive parents to make a commitment to educate themselves on the adoption law of the state or country from which they are adopting. Further, it is important for adoptive parents to educate themselves on the agency in which they choose to ensure that their agency is committed to ethical adoption practices. One place to start is to makes sure the agency is a good standing member of the Joint Council on International Children’s Services.

The JCIS website also has a very helpful section on the General Steps in International Adoption that I recommend.

The US Government has also implemented the Hague Adoption Convention which seeks to ensure that adoptions take place in the best interests of children and to prevent the abduction, sale, or trafficking of children in connection with intercountry adoption. Anyone adopting internationally must read through the Hague site, especially:

Information for Parents
U.S. Accredited Adoption Service Providers
Adoption Service Providers Denied Hague Convention Accreditation/Approval

[Image used with permission by Studio Muntz]

3 thoughts on “Is it Ethical to Pay $40,000 for An Adoption: Answering Objections – Part 1

  1. Mirah,

    Thank you for your passionate concern for ethical adoption, the welfare of children, and justice. I share that desire and passion as do most of the readers of this blog.

    I am responding to what you have written because you bring up good objections to international adoption that are important to address.

    Thanks again for stopping by!


  2. mr kovacs.

    i am the designer for the graphic you’re using on this blog post. while i am flattered that you chose to use my image, i would have appreciated being asked permission.

    the fact that an image is posted on the web does not make it fair game for anyone to use.

    however, i will not ask that you discontinue using it, because i like your subject matter. this image and corresponding message series was to create awareness for children in poverty. that’s what you are doing as well.

    this comment is more fyi than anything else.

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