‘I Don’t Want My Children to Be Happy’

How would you respond if friends you love told you your children would resent you for using their college funds to pay for an adoption?

My wife pointed me to this post this morning that has been going around the blogosphere. The author writes an open letter to her children about their plans to adopt, the opposition they have faced, and what she and her husband want most for their children.

Dear Shepherd, Sissy, Maggie and Ikey,

Recently we were told by people whom we love and respect why they oppose our plans to adopt. One of the reasons given was that we would not be able to pay for your college education.

It’s true.

You all have college funds – college funds which recently took a terrible hit – but “they” say that by the time you’re 18, college will cost anywhere between $200,000 to half a million dollars each. You might as well know now, we won’t be covering that. I’m telling you now, babies.

The people said that the day would come when you would look at us with resentment because you had to apply for school loans while many of your friends got a free ride from their parents.

Maybe you will. Maybe you’ll resent us. I really hope not. But maybe I should tell y’all now why your dad and I have decided to do what we are doing.

Read the rest of her post here.

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